Today is grocery shopping day at our house. My wife and I went to Meijer’s to shop ,and then we stopped at Captain D’s for a Lenten fish lunch.
The cashier that waited on us was a young woman in her twenties. She had a hard time getting our order straight. Inwardly, I felt the impatient monster struggling to get out, but I successfully subdued him. I paid her and thanked her for taking our order.
While we were sitting at our table this same woman came by and asked us if everyone was OK. I told her yes and then I handed her 2 unused, wrapped plastic forks. I said to her , "Here you can have these back. They have only been used once." The woman laughed and she said "I wish my husband had a sense of humor like you." She looked at my wife and said "is he always this way?" My wife chuckled and then said " After thirty years of marriage you get used to it" The woman replied, "well I have only been married three years." She gave us a longing look and I said to her, "you have a great day." She replied, "you too."
By now many of you who are reading this are thinking, "what’s up with this guy? I thought this post is about evangelism."
It is, and this story has everything to do with evangelism in the 21st century.
What happened during my lunch at Captain D’s?
- I met someone I didn’t know
- I made a human connection with her
- The woman expressed that there was a problem in her marriage. Her and her husband are at the three year stage where all of sudden the realities of marriage usually become fully known and sometimes it isn’t pretty
- I treated the woman as a fellow human being and the door was left open for future interaction
- The woman met a couple who had been married thirty years and survived
- The woman will remember me as the guy who made the joke about the forks
I am convinced that evangelism in the 21st century is all about meeting people where they are and with love and sincerity attempting to enter into their lives.
As a Christian, it is imperative I walk in the love of Christ in my dealings with all people. I never know when I might be given the opportunity to enter into a person’s life and make the gospel known to them.
When I visit Captain D’s again I will seek out this woman and try to engage her in further conversation.
- "You told me you have been married for three years?’ Where did you and your husband meet?
- "Are you from Defiance?" If not, "where are you originally from?"
- "Do you have children?"
And so the conversation builds. I must always remember that I am at the woman’s place of employment and I must respect her space and work obligation. It would have been much easier to leave a tract on the table, but most likely the tract would have ended up in the trash
When we shop at Meijer’s each Thursday, we seek out the same cashiers. Sometimes we have to wait in a longer line to get the cashier we want. Once again, it is all about making loving, personal contact with people.
Everyone of us have a sphere of influence. Within this sphere are people that you and I can uniquely reach with the gospel. The most ineffective person, as a rule, when it comes to evangelism, is a pastor. The pastor spends most of his time with the saved. He is busy preparing sermons and administrating the Church. We can debate whether or not this is the way it should be, but that is how it is.
The most effective people in reaching others with the gospel are the people in pew. They work "in the world". They are around unsaved people all day. Perhaps they have tried all the latest evangelistic gimmicks: cute tracts, wearing a Christian shirt, leaving their bible out on the desk, hanging Christian paraphernalia around their cubicle, objecting when someone swears, etc. All this has gotten them is the "boy they are a religious nut" label.
Perhaps, it is time to unleash the people in the pew and allow them to be "people in the world but not of the world." We need to burn down the Christian Ghetto. Stop withdrawing from the world.
Once people are let loose to go unto "their world" they are then in a position to involve themselves in the live’s of others. Instead of withdrawing into the four walls of the church, we need to deliberately engage others in the world they live in. This is what I mean when I say we need to become "worldly for Christ."
There are many ways to do this, but the bottom line is that we need to go to where sinners are. Not to preach at them, but to befriend them. Imagine the local Baptist preacher going down to the local tavern and having a beer with the guys. Such scandal, eh? Jesus would be pleased, I am sure.
Join some secular clubs that will put you in contact with people. I am currently getting ready to participate in a surrogate parent program where I will advocate for children in the court system. I saw this as a great opportunity to meet people, help them, and perhaps reach them with the good news of the gospel.
One of the interesting things coming out of the emerging Church movement is the notion of the Third Place. The first place is home. The second place is work. The third place are the places where we congregate as a community.
Some thoughtful emergent’s are starting up businesses with the express purpose of providing places where the community can congregate, and within that context ministry can take place.
I have discussed with my older sons about perhaps starting a music venue in the Defiance area. This would be a place where aspiring artists could come and perform. They would need to have some form of food and drink available and the place would be open to all who would like to come. My older sons are musicians and this would provide them an excellent venue to interact with those they share a common connection. (music) Once again, it is all about making that first contact with people. The end purpose is to glorify God and to bring others into the Kingdom of God.
Methods change. What I have written here is about methods I think will be effective in the 21st century. The message doesn’t change. The good news is still the good news.
The message must be contextualized. It does little good to use methods and language that a postmodern generation does not understand nor will respond to. This requires hard work on our part. We must rethink the process. We must evaluate our methods. We must never forget that our purpose is to see others know the joy of following after Jesus Christ.