notice any difference?I have a confession to make — I Google’d myself today. Now, it wasn’t in a fit of pure narcissism. It actually was a bit of research. Sorta.

Last month, in the comments of this post, Joe Martino pointed out a post on an ODM site that was largely bashing Chris Lyons, and to a lesser extent, this whole site in general. To bolster his argument, the author used something that I had written, noting that I am Chris’ friend and that now (”unfortunately”, in his words) I am a contributor to the very site that he was bashing while (ab)using my words.

The misappropriated words came from my blog and were linked correctly. But oddly enough, I didn’t even get a pingback (which, at least in most blogging software, is not something that requires action by the writer, but happens automatically). Given the lack of pingback, I wasn’t aware of the post until Joe referenced it. So I was curious to see if there were other instances in which my words were being used to bash my friends. Hence the self-Googling (which is legal here in the state of Georgia). Not surprisingly, I found another instance from the same site.

Now I want you to look at those two pictures above. For those who haven’t been to our “Who We Are” section, that’s Chris on the left and me on the right. Granted, there are some similarities:

  • Two strikingly handsome men
  • Caucasian
  • Facial hair

And there are similarities that you don’t see in the pictures:

  • Both U.S. citizens
  • Approximately the same age (though Chris doesn’t look it, darn him)

But there are differences, too:

  • Chris takes one step closer to the razor than I do when shaving the upper jawline.
  • If you look at Chris’ full picture, you’ll see that it was taken in/near Jerusalem. The closest that I’ve gotten to the Holy Land is Bethlehem, Pennsylvania.
  • I’d bet Chris has never had his picture taken with beluga whales in the background. (That picture of me was taken in the ballroom of the Georgia Aquarium).

And there are differences that you don’t see in the pictures:

  • Chris has four kids; I have none
  • We work in different industries

And, no, my CapsLock key didn’t get stuck. I just didn’t want my point to get lost.

This isn’t just me saying to Chris, “Hey, I’m being used unwillingly in Jim’s drive-bys. We’re still cool, right?” This isn’t even just me pointing out my unwillingness to the readers here and publicly declaring that Chris is my friend. All of that is true, but there’s more to it.

Chris and I agree on the essentials. Unfortunately, the site that (ab)used my words — which I won’t dignify with a link or a direct reference — and other ODMs have such a maddeningly long list of (what they deem to be) “essentials”, that it’s almost impossible for any two clones people to adhere to the exact same list.

In his cynical little tirade about book endorsers, Steve Camp even inadvertently threw his “friend and mentor”, John MacArthur, under the bus. With friends like that … (But, I digress.)

If I had to bet, I’d say that when we get to heaven, regarding the things that Chris and I disagree on, one of four things is going to happen:

  1. We’ll find out that I was wrong.
  2. We’ll find out that Chris was wrong.
  3. We’ll find out that we both were wrong.
  4. We’ll find out that we both were right, but our finite brains couldn’t grasp the paradox.

In the meantime, none of those differences are going to keep me from working with my brother.

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9 Comments(+Add)

1   Joe Martino
January 5th, 2008 at 10:15 pm

Just one more instance where for the sake of charity we say they made a mistake but most people just assume they lie.

2   merry    
January 6th, 2008 at 4:26 pm

Just wondering . . . why would it be ever be illegal to google yourself?

3   Keith
January 6th, 2008 at 5:49 pm

If it weren’t for the different styles of facial hair…you guys could pass as twin brothers. Thanks for clearing up the confusion.

4   Brendt
January 6th, 2008 at 9:09 pm

Keith, I think you just insulted the snot out of Chris! :-)

5   Keith
January 6th, 2008 at 10:03 pm

Brendt: That’s the funniest thing I’ve seen on this blog in a while (obviously depending on what a person considers “funny.”) Thanks for the chuckle. Sorry, Chris.

6   Chris L
January 6th, 2008 at 10:58 pm

Thank you, Brendt – excellent article!

Sorry I didn’t say anything sooner – we just got back from New York, where we spent a long weekend w/o internet :)

7   Brendt
January 7th, 2008 at 9:35 am


1) You’re welcome
2) Thank you very much
3) Good for you! ;-)

8   Joe Martino
January 7th, 2008 at 9:47 am

By New York, do you mean the city or the state? I miss the city. 2 months till pitchers and catchers report!

9   Chris L
January 7th, 2008 at 10:07 am

New York City – my son’s music group was there and sang in Lincoln Center Saturday night, and my parents took us there for my birthday…